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Safety (planning & web safety)
In an emergency, always call the police on 999.
Fife offers a range of services to keep you safe in your home, including:
- A free home security assessment: Fife Cares,
- Homeless Advice and Prevention to help find realistic solutions to having a safe place to live (0800 0286231).
- Domestic Abuse Unit from Police Scotland can offer practical assistance and discuss legal options (tel: 101)
- Fife Women’s Aid offers a range of information and support Fife Women’s Aid
You cannot stop your partner’s violence and abuse – only they can do that. However, there are things you can do to increase your own and your children’s safety:
- Keep important and emergency telephone numbers
- Teach children to call 999 in an emergency, and what to say
- Alert trusted neighbours, and identify where you could go in an emergency
- Rehearse an escape plan, so in an emergency you and the children can get away safely.
- Pack an emergency bag and hide it somewhere safe
- Try to keep a small amount of money on you at all times
- Know where the nearest phone is, and if you have a mobile phone, try to keep it with you.
- Get a free home security assessment from Fife Cares
What to pack if you are planning to leave your partner
- Birth certificates for you and any children.
- Passports, visas and work permits.
- Money, bankbooks, cheque book and credit and debit cards
- Keys for house, car, and place of work.
- Proof of any Benefits
- Driving licence and car registration documents, if applicable.
- Prescribed medication
- Copies of documents relating to your housing, mortgage, lease, rent details
- Insurance documents, including national insurance number
- Family photographs, small items of sentimental value.
- Your children’s favourite small toys.
- Police reports, court orders and copies of medical records
If you have left home, but are staying in the same town or area
- Try to avoid any places that you used to use when you were together
- Try to alter your routines as much as you can
- Try to alter any regular appointments that your partner knows about
- Tell your children’s school, or child-minder what has happened, tell them who will pick them up. Make sure they do not release the children to anyone else, or give your new address or telephone number to anyone
- Consider telling your employer or colleagues
If you have moved away from your area
- Be aware your mobile phone could be ‘tracked’
- Try to avoid using shared credit or debit cards or joint bank accounts
- Make sure that your address does not appear on any court papers
- Talk to your children about the need to keep your address and location confidential.
If you stay or return to your home after your partner has left
- Change the locks on all doors (Fife Cares will help you)
- Put locks on all windows: install outside lights
- Inform the neighbours and ask them to phone police if he comes to house
- Change your telephone and/or screen calls
- Keeping copies of all court orders together with dates and times of previous incidents and call-outs for reference if you need to call the police again.
If you are worried that someone might check what you are looking at or doing on this computer, don’t use it to get help and advice. You could use a computer in a library, at a trusted friend’s house or an internet café.
Leaving the Site Quickly
If you need to leave quickly or hide what you are doing we have provided three ways for you to go quickly to a harmless site, or you can simply close your browser. Below are the three ways to leave the site. BE AWARE that none of them erase your history, and a simple click of the BACK button will reveal where you were. There is information on how to cover your tracks by erasing your history.
At the bottom right of each page you will find the exit button, shown left. It will stay at the bottom right of the page regardless of any scrolling. Simply click it.
At the top of every page there is a green EXIT logo. The exit button shown here is at the left end of the purple bar. Simply click it. NOTE – unlike method 1 this button will scroll out of view off screen.
If you are in the middle of typing a message to Saje on the Contact Us page, you might not have time to click an exit button. Simply press the ESC key instead.
WARNING Never leave the Saje site open in one window while you work on something else in another window. None of the above methods will work until you return to the Saje window, which might take too long.
Covering your tracks: Clearing your web browser’s history
You can clear some evidence of visited sites, and any searches you have done, by clearing your web browser’s history. However, this won’t remove all records from your computer’s memory and someone in your home would not have to be a computer expert to find the remaining records.
REMEMBER – If clearing your browser’s history isn’t something you do regularly don’t do it, as this might arouse suspicion.
Unfortunately there is no standard method for clearing browser history, and it not only varies from browser to browser but it can also vary from version to version within the same browser. You will need to learn how to do it for your particular browser., so use the browser’s built-in help system to guide you. The following notes are just a general guide and may not apply to all versions of each browser.
Internet Explorer (PC)
Pull down the Tools menu and select Internet Options. Click on the ‘Delete Files’ and ‘Clear History’ buttons on the general page.
Firefox (PC and Mac)
Pull down Tools menu and select ‘Clear Private Data’. Tick ‘Browsing History’, ‘Download History’, ‘Saved Form and Search History’, ‘Cache’ and ‘Authenticated Sessions; then click on ‘Clear Private Data Now’.
- Click the Chrome menu on the browser toolbar.
- Select Tools.
- Select Clear browsing data.
- In the dialogue that appears, select the “Clear browsing history” tick box.
- Use the menu at the top to select the amount of data you want to delete. Select beginning of time to clear your entire browsing history.
- Click Clear browsing data.
Pull down Members menu, select Preferences. Click on WWW icon. Then select Advanced, and click ‘Purge Cache’.
Safari (Mac and PC)
Pull down the Safari menu, select ‘Reset Safari’, click on ‘Reset’. NOTE – Safari also has a ‘Private Browsing’ option which you can choose before you browse and turn off afterwards. To use this, pull down the Safari menu, select ‘Private Browsing’, and click OK when you see a confirmation message. To turn private browsing off, choose it from the menu again, and close any windows you’ve used to view private information
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